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| How could an angel break my heart? |
| 02.28.04 (11:10 am) [edit] |
I met this man a little while ago six months to be exact, at a company event. We both work in the medical fields and we had an annual meeting. We were introduced and we spent the greater part of the evening engrossed in deep conversation. It was obvious there was chemistry between us. He was about 30 years old, 6 ft tall, medium built with very seductive features. I fell in love instantly but I couldn’t quite read him, this further intrigued me because I usually know when a man is into me. I was cautious about flashing green lights so I maintained a steady yellow.
Our friendship grew as we began seeing more and more of each other and sharing thoughts about what our ideal partner would be, we would call each other day and night and share the most intimate secrets, it was as if I found a soul mate. I found that we were completely ourselves when we were together and there was no form of pretence.
I believed in love and I believed in soul mates and I also believed in the myth that there is just one partner created for each being, faith brings you to meet that person but I believe it is then left to you to ensure you don’t miss out on the opportunity. This has always been my explanation or justification for my past failed relationships and it was enough to comfort me.
We would take turns sleeping over each other’s homes without any form of physical intimacy, our conversation or even silence was completely fulfilling!
It can’t get any better than this I thought, but it did! It got better with each passing moment! His friends and mine were envious of the time we share together and swore we were a couple; we would look at them and then at each other and laugh it off like it their notions were absurd. We enjoyed all of the same things but mostly we enjoyed being with each other. This went on for six months and I started getting greedy! I wanted him emotionally but mostly physically! I felt a famishing hunger I never knew existed and I wasn’t sure how to tactfully make my feelings known. I decided to invite him to dinner; I chose a restaurant we both enjoyed.
It was a romantic evening and I was oozing with optimism, he arrived at the restaurant right on time and I was waiting eagerly at our favorite table, which I reserved beforehand. As he made his way to meet me, I was flooded with emotions; I pictured our life together, we would have such beautiful, intelligent and well mannered children, we would live in a vast estate with all of life’s opulence but most importantly we would be together…. Forever!
He tapped my shoulder to bring me out of my trance; I uttered my apologies and told him I had a lot on my mind.
We ordered from the menu and had wonderful conversation, about work, the weather the political situations…about every thing but our plans for OUR future. I figured this was my chance to share my thoughts with him, cause even though nothing we’ve shared has alludes to us being a couple, I secretly felt betrothed to this man and no other man has measured up since I met him.
I told him being in my life the last six months has taken away all fears and reservations I had about life…about love. I told him I loved him, not in the brotherly way but in the man loves woman way and I have had these feeling since our initial meeting and I wanted to know if he felt the same way. I told him I would love for us to take our friendship to the next level and become a couple. I ended my spiel with “Later on in my destiny, I see myself having your child, I see myself being your wife and I see my whole future in your eyes”.
Throughout my entire discourse he was silent his face was without expression so I did not have a feel for his thoughts. He held my hands and looked into my eyes and said that he is flattered that I have these feelings for him but he is unable to fulfill my destiny because he is GAY!
Bola Odegbami
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| His mercies endureth forever! |
| 02.27.04 (8:42 am) [edit] |
About ten years ago, in Lagos Nigeria I was at some friends’ house when armed robbers invaded their home. It was about 10pm and we were lounging outdoors as usual when a car pulled up with 5 men, we assumed there were lost and needed directions so we asked if we could be of help. I wasn’t sure was happening until my friend dashed down the street leaving me behind, I didn’t try to run because I wouldn’t get very far, but neither did he. They quickly caught him and with guns pointed at our sculls we were ushered in the house and the nightmare began!
I was curious as this was my first encounter with Armed Robbers; they appeared to be in their early to mid thirty’s and from the eastern descend. They quickly split up and asked all of us to lie on the floor faced down. Various thoughts ran through my head but for some bizarre reason I had no fears. It was like watching a horror movie but knowing its just make belief. I figured any minute now, I will wake up and this would rate an excellent film! We were about twelve in total including my friend’s mum, we laid quietly as we heard them ravage the house in hope of finding loot but this was not one of those homes; My friends’ folks had their main home in the Villa and this was their home away from home, the kids stayed here because their schools were in the same town.
They searched vigorously for about an hour destroying things in their path, they cursed and fussed and decided to assault their hostages. My friends’ eldest brother was their first victim; he was beaten mercilessly for no apparent reason! We were all very cooperative so their cruelty baffled me.
As they regrouped outside to decide on plan B, we heard their drunken holler ”Ol boy! fine! fine! gals dey here o!!” they left one dude to chaperone the hostages, he decided I would be the next prey; he stomped on my behind to get my attention. I got up slowly and awaited directions; he had a perverted look in his eyes as he barked at me to remove my clothes! I cringed at the thought of what might happen next! My friends’ mother stood up and pleaded on my behalf but dude told her to get back on the ground. No way in hell was this dude going to rape me in the presence of all these folks! Or was he? I begged for mercy but he aimed his rifle to my head and I obeyed quickly. I was down to my underwear and I found that I had wet myself! I was on the last day of my cycle and I had opted for toilet paper, as panty liners were a luxury. The combination of urine, blood and toilet paper made the dude sick to his stomach, he held his palm to his mouth to keep from barfing and muffled “Wetin be this… I beg pull am!!”
Frustrated by the turn of events we were asked to pile ourselves in a bathroom! All twelve of us laid awkwardly on top of one another in the tiny room with no windows and no way of communicating with the outside world! They locked us in and made their leave. We waited a couple hours to ensure that they had gone and one of the guys climbed up through the ceiling to set us free!
We later discovered that they had taken a load of money from the next-door neighbor after they left my friends’ place! It’s been about 10 years and I am still traumatized by the whole ordeal. It could have been worse but it wasn’t my portion and I exalt the Almighty every time I look back at this horrific day!
The good thing is, I can talk about it and laugh my ass off but some folks aren’t so lucky.
Bola Odegbami
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| As my world Turns...... |
| 02.26.04 (11:12 am) [edit] |
Wow…yes I am back! It has been a rough week!
Last Friday I hung out with the ladies, it was Wande’s birthday, we were all invited to dine at an Italian restaurant that had karaoke in it, the food was superb (at least what I ordered) and we sang happy birthday to the celebrant! We TRIED to sing at the karaoke thing but not one person in our mix could hold a note! It was sad but fun! The night was a success…we had a blast! Happy Birthday Wande! May God continue to bless you!
I felt really shitty Saturday morning, I had a hair appointment, lawdy knows I need my hair did! I made it there just before 8am, I did not finish till about 12noon. Lachelle’s baby shower was also today, lawdy lawdy! I even promised her jollof rice and chicken for her party, I felt like shit! I crawled into my bed and went straight to sleep! I woke up at about 5:30! What a mess, I can’t go to the shower now, I haven’t even gone shopping for the chicken yet!
I went back to sleep, I am scared to call Lachelle because she would be so disappointed! Hell who am I fooling, she will be surrounded by her American crew and my presence won’t even matter! A few minutes later I got a call from Lachelle, she seemed pretty calm when I told her the news but I could sense her disappointment.
I slept in most of Sunday, Bukky came over to hang with me for a bit, we went shopping together because I needed a few things around the house. I finally got a cordless caller-id equip phone! Ye ha! Now I can really screen my calls!! We went to some get-to-gether later on , not sure what the occasion was but there was free food!
I stopped by the African store, I promised to cook for dude today. I was exhausted by the time I got home I made efo and rice. Dude called and asked if he can drop by my place with a friend from out-of-town for dinner, I said it was fine, Bukky helped me around the house a bit.
Dude and his friend ate dinner and chilled for a bit before heading out. I watched the final episode of Sex and the City, it brought tears to my eyes! I can’t believe that shit is over! What the hell am I gonna do on Sunday nights now?
I woke up Monday morning with a bad crises, the go to the emergency room type crises, it was horribly. I asked Ekpen to take Omolayo to a babysitter, no school today, and I called the ambulance to take me down to the hospital. Moji made me dinner and Bukky cleaned my kitchen.
I cant remember exactly how I found a cab but my ass was home in a jiffy and I was way out!
Moji picked Omolayo up later and stopped by my crib, I slept like a baby.
Bukky, Moji, Modinat, Aunty Tokunbo and Ekpen were a real blessing to me the past few days, I don’t know what I would have done without them. Oh lest I forget my darling Omolayo who made us peanutputta and jello sanmiches for breakfast on Tuesday! She was so strong and bold! She said “Mummy I’m not gonna cry, I’m gonna take care of you okay”
And she did a great job too! I am really proud of my munchkin!
I felt a bit better on Wednesday, I had an appointment with faith I couldn’t miss. I will share the details later.
Some bitch felt the need to burn my cables by telling a dude that like me that I have a child! You see what I mean? There is nothing else about Bola that you can gossip about so you state the obvious! My child is my biggest achievement in life, I am so proud of her existence its ridiculous! I wouldn’t trade her for anything and her existence has never been a secret ...so Kenny, if you are reading this…find a hobby! Even with my child I am more fabulous than you could ever be…believe that!
I hate that folks bring out the ugliness in me, I mean what the fuck? Her exact words to this dude were “ Be careful because she has a child” talk about hateration! Dude already knew about Omolayo! And as her name suggests…She is a child of joy! Just because I chose to deal with my responsibility like a woman instead of taking easier alternatives, I should not be mocked….I should be commended for my bravery! Damn I can’t stand cowards!
FRIEND really disappointed me later that evening, I am not sure why I allow it to keep happening but I need a reality check quick! It really hurt though, perhaps I am being selfish and forcing a way where the seems to be no way, all I know is that this shit does not feel good.
I am limping bad today, I feel fine but I need physical therapy to get my left side up to par. I am back at work today same shit different toilet…I have tons of shit to do before I catch up, bitch is being too nice, I should tell her that irks me as well . I wore my new top today, yes o! Moji got me this cute ass sweater from the Limited and I am launching the top right now and if I may say so myself…I look heck of good!
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| Can he provide for us? |
| 02.18.04 (8:54 am) [edit] |
I work as a Junior Partner at one of the most respected law firms in Los Angeles and my sweetheart works for in a group home for vulnerable adults as a Counselor. He recently proposed after we had been dating for 3 years, but I have my doubt about being married to a man that makes ¼ of my salary. When we started dating I was fresh out of college working as legal aid for the same firm so it was not an issue, I had high hopes for us both, I was certain he would finish school and find a better job, but he insisted college was not for him. He dropped out in his junior yeah and I have not been able to convince him to go back. He loved his job and he insisted money was not everything. I hoped watching me go through law school and getting promoted to Junior Partner would encourage him make something more meaningful of himself, but he is always proud of my achievements and genuinely happy for me…for us! He always insists on paying for meals when we are out and buys me extravagant gifts that he can barely afford. It took him 2 years to save for my 2-karat engagement ring! I would have settled for a less expensive ring or meet him half way but he just wouldn't have it. He insists on paying for everything, even when he can’t afford it, he'll have us put it off till his next payday.
I am embarrassed to take him out with me to company events or cocktail parties with my friends for fear that they may ask him what he does! He always leaves them baffled when he announces proudly that he’s a Counselor; from the look on his face you would think he was a Doctor! I love that he doesn't have a complex; maybe I am the one with the problem! He is just as knowledgeable as many of my educated male friends, so why do I see him as inferior in their mix? At my pace and with my determination, I can only excel further, but I am afraid to because of my man.
I have not told my parents about the proposal, I can just imagine their reaction and my man wants us to tell them together! My father is a professor at Harvard Law School and my mother is Superintendent of the Massachusetts School District. They are both aware of our relationship but they think I am going through a phase.
I love him so much and I know he loves me too, but we are financially incompatible!
We plan to have two children and I am afraid that we will not be able to afford them a decent education, or any of the luxuries I was afforded growing up. I know money is not everything but…can he provide for us?
Bola Odegbami
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| ....And there was Peace! |
| 02.16.04 (10:43 am) [edit] |
About my talk with my boss and bitch; She got to go first and she said I am difficult to work with and I have an aura of arrogance about me, she reiterated my tardiness issue and tried to discredit me as best as she possible could.
I repeated my earlier account of things and ended with “My duties as an analyst have direct impact on your end result as the product manager, therefore it is necessary that you gain my loyalty and earn my respect. I am not here to make friends but it is important that we have a cordial working relationship to achieve our mutual business goals”.
Can you imagine this woman? By the time we were done, my poor Indian boss was perplexed, he simply said we both made valid points and we should try our best to work together, he also mentioned that my work speaks for itself, which is why he thought pairing me with the Bitch would be the fastest way to get her acclimated to our way of business.
So far so good since our meeting, I am trying to wipe the slate clean and give her a chance as long as she meets me half way. I have even been coming in earlier these days to get her off my back!
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| Bored out of my mind! |
| 02.15.04 (5:22 pm) [edit] |
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I am bored! please tell me why the hell I am so damn bored? I went to Church this morning, Moji picked molayo and I up a little after nine. Service was great, I felt like the pastor was talking bout me. I didnt do my hair as planned instead, I sat on my computer trying to figure out how to change my layout. Omolayo is taking a along ass nap, I wish she would wake her ass up and disturb me or something! I am going to do some laundry now and get off this damn compurra!
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| Valentine...this too shall pass! |
| 02.14.04 (8:51 pm) [edit] |
Okay so it’s valentines, my original plan changed; I decided to share my fabulousness with my dearest friends ( NO WE DIDN’T HAVE AN ORGY!) I invited everyone to my crib and I cooked jollof rice goat meat and chicken, I even bought some shayo! Yeah baby!!! Ms Alize and Sir Hypnotic were fully representing! Omolayo’s aunt swung by to pick her up for the weekend.
I dropped my car off at the shop earlier, it had been humming for some time now so Muyi dropped me back home, Ekpen later took me around to ran my errands, he bailed at about 3pm (I guess he had runs with Lakisha). Sweet Bowale brought soft drinks and Moji brought the paper plates and cutleries. It was a nice little gathering. It is about quarter to midnight and everyone just left with the exception of Moji, she isn’t feeling too well…I guess she will be my lover tonight!
Okay just incase you are wondering, that last bit was a joke o… I am strictly dickly !!!!!!!!
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| Valentine Goodies!!! |
| 02.14.04 (8:46 pm) [edit] |
Hmmm tell me why in the hell I was given a trick bag at work today:?: :? One of the managers said I look like I get my freak on so she thought I could use a few tricks!
She handed me a red velvet bag containing massage oil, a red candle, a blindfold and a pair of handcuffs! Apparently one of our vendors thought it was cute and she thought I would know just what to do with it! Well…. a couple things come to mind :idea: Hmm if only there was that special man to use them on! Oh well I shall save my trick bag for the ONE :!:
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| Bisola Oshipitan aka Mrs. Oshibamiro |
| 02.14.04 (7:13 am) [edit] |
Happy Birthday to my girl Bisola! I love you girl and I wish you all the things I wish myself...may God continue to bless you abundantly!
02/13
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this picture is like 7 years old!
Bisola and I
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| Getting to know YOU... |
| 02.13.04 (9:57 am) [edit] |
A lot of Nigerian women shy away from openly discussing masturbation, so I am led to believe they don’t (masturbate). Which would explain why they do not experience orgasms.
I have a 30 years old friend who is married with children and has never had an orgasm, I think that is absolutely ridiculous!
In order for a man to love you, you must love yourself, get to know your body, know what it takes to get you there. Only when you are fully aware of your spots can you direct a man to please you. Some men don’t need directions, they watch your reaction to certain touches and some just go with the universally effective techniques; kissing on your neck, nibbling your ear, clawing your back etc…but those are for mediocre lovers! It takes a bit more to be an unforgettable lover!
You know, it is not the actual act performed on a guy that excites him, a man is most excited about your reaction to his actions! So if you can teach him to touch you where you like to be touched, you can both have a more fulfilling sex life. In order for you to achieve this however, you‘ve got to get to know you! A lot of women use dildos and other sexual toys to discover themselves, which I think is a great idea if you plan to be alone forever! The reality of it is that these toys are only a quick fix, the movements are at ridiculous pace that no human being is able to achieve and once your body is tuned to this pace, responding to a real man will be tough.
Bottom line....get to know YOU in an intimate way...you don't have to tell anyone...just do it for you.
My thing is if all these women are out there and are not having orgasms during sex…Why the hell are they doing it? :roll:
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| Valentine...someone's sick idea of a joke! |
| 02.11.04 (10:38 am) [edit] |
Valentine! The dreaded day has finally come. It is a miserably time for single folks but it doesn’t have to be. I have decided that rather than wallowing in my singledom I a going to embrace it and celebrate me! I will not be taking any pathetic phone calls and visitors are most certainly unwanted!
It sounds absurd but I intend to send my child away with her Aunties for the weekend. I will buy some sexy lingerie as a gift to myself for being absolutely fabulous, then I plan on cooking a gourmet dinner of Efo and Eba, I will only be listening to Jodeci or maybe BoysIIMen….. na, I think I will go with India Ari and Jill Scott…yeah woman power! I will run myself a nice hot bath with Sweet Pea bubbles and rose petals, give myself a facial followed by a mani and pedi, change into my newly acquired lingerie and waltz around my apartment in appreciation of ME!
I will light every inch of my apartment with scented candle ( I hope I don’t burn the joint) and I will open a bottle of Alize and dine alone but with delight. When I am all done with dinner, I will get in my warm bed and watch a Sex and the City marathon.
Now tell me that aint special!
To those of you with loved ones to share this special day…BITE ME!
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| Highly disappointed! |
| 02.10.04 (7:28 am) [edit] |
I am extremely disappointed. It is amazing how it’s easy for people to disappoint me when I never disappoint anyone! I am good for my word and I wish folks would not just open their mouth and make promises when they know there is a chance it may not be fulfilled! Yall Mofos know who you are!
:evil:
I have my big meeting with Bitch and my boss this afternoon…pray for me! I’ll be back later with the details!
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| Not exactly as planned |
| 02.08.04 (9:46 pm) [edit] |
So it’s Friday! I was pretty excited cause I had this whole weekend planned right. I was going to catch a movie Friday night, sleep in Saturday, cook, clean and do my laundry, then later in the evening go to this dinner gig with my colleagues at work with Two dates, Doyin and Dare, Dare and Moji, Bukky and Moji or Bukky and Bo, whatever the case, I wanted two of my friends to go to the dinner with me. After the dinner thing, I want to catch another movie and call it a night. Attend church on Sunday and go with my sister and a couple of my friends to a naming ceremony for my sister’s friend.
Nothing went as planned; by the time I got home on Friday I was looking for my bed! I slept till like 11am on Saturday and I found out that dare was not going to be in town after all! I had to go to the bank and the post office; Omolayo is going to Nigeria with her daddy so I have to get her a passport. I got to the bank minutes after 1pm, they had closed, I couldn’t find a post office in the area and I had just wasted half a tank of gas.
Bukky and I decided to go to the movies and Bowale and her man met us up there. We decided to see Barber Shop II and You Got Served but for the price of one! I had to drag Bukky bag to my juvenile delinquent age! In my opinion Barber Shop was aight, but I really liked you Got Served. We went to Moji’s house afterward and she was feeling a bit under the weather so we hung out with her till like 2am, her mum made some efo and I got to eat EBA...My favorite!
I got home at like 2:30am and I watched Soul Food on On Demand. Not sure what time I slept but I woke up at about noonish on Sunday, my sister was in town and she was wondering where the hell I was. I made her some Eba and she ate yam and eggs for dessert! Omolayo’s dad came to pick her up for the day!
I gave my sister a makeover; she has shoulder length hair that just sits in a ponytail, she was happy with the results but I am sure her hair will be back in a ponytail in no time!
We went for the naming ceremony and I was extremely bored, the pastor decided that we should pray on every aspect of the child’s life, we even prayed that she’d remain a virgin till her wedding night! I cracked up on that one! Do folks actually say those prayers?
The food was like that though, I must have ate half the Scotch egg on the tray, when my greedy ass was full, I demanded that my sister take me home!
Uncle Yemi, Modinat and Uncle Timi came over later on and we hung out with my sister till it was time for their rides to get towed! Big shout out to Uncle Yemi, he wrote me a check just because! Uncle Yemi is Uncle Timi’s brother; I have also known him since I was 9 years old! Let me just say all these folks only came to my crib because my sister was in town o! Bomboclot!
I am working on my next write up about the art of masturbation! I will find time to finish it tomorrow! For now…peace out!
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| Bitch and I are at it again! |
| 02.06.04 (10:20 am) [edit] |
I have had a rough week, I am pleased it’s finally Friday! Bitch from work just keeps fucking with me! I am about to steal the heifer in her face so before I do something I’ll regret , I figure I talk to my boss first. I wrote down every thing I needed to say, I want this shit documented, I’ll share;
Vipan if I may speak candidly….. In my four and the half years with Comcast I have not experience anything like this, I have been in four department and have worked with over 15 managers and directors. I spoke with you a couple months ago about Liza and the fact that I was not sure she knows enough about our business to lead our main product and you encouraged me to hand hold her through the hurdles and in due time she will catch the drift. It has been four months, and I feel like I am working alone, she is not open to learn so it is hard to teach her anything and she gives off a vibe that certain things are beneath her. There is no direction, no team work and to Ice the cake she feels the need to command respect when she has openly disrespected me time and time again. She communicates through email, (no personal touch) which mainly contains orders not requests, with no direction or explanation on what the desired result are. She sets deadlines with no consideration of what is needed to get the tasks done. She even caught her self raising her voice at me because she got frustrated when I asked that she repeat directions which made no sense to start with. I have printed several correspondences we’ve had in the last couple weeks, which in my opinion rude and obnoxious! I understand that she has a military background but this is not CAMP DAVID. She has making phone calls on her behalf like I am her personal assistant. She talks down to me as if to remind me that she is higher on the chain of command. She even expects me to take work home daily and have them completed by the next morning. As of this moment I refuse to take any work home, I am not obligated to work after hours, I have done so in the past out of the goodness of my heart, but I do not feel appreciated so I will make better use of my off hours. I have always been passionate about my job but at this time I have no desire whatsoever to continue working with this woman. She is constantly badgering me with projects intended for her, she is clueless about all aspects of the business and it makes me look bad. The bottom line is I am here to help her achieve her goals as the Basic Product Manager but I feel intimidated by her and I am unable to do that effectively. I am not the most patient person as you well know and I intend to share my thoughts with HR to cover my tracks should she intimidate me to do something really stupid.
By the time I was done with my spiel, I was extremely emotional, my boss gave me a couple Kleenex and said “Wow…this is way out of character for you Bola”
He asked me to stay calm and we would have a meeting on Tuesday with Liza and see if we can work things out. He also said he assumed I was happy and pleaded with me to give him a chance to resolve this before bringing in HR.
I guess I feel a lot better now but I just wish we could resolve this quickly. I am totally depressed, I cant believe I am letting this chicken head get to me!
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| Negativity... |
| 02.04.04 (11:58 am) [edit] |
I try not to surround myself with negative people, I only associate with positive people, people who are making something of themselves, people who can motivate me to make something of myself. I am blessed with friends that are faithful and cheer me on when I do good and talk some sense into me when I am losing grounds. I am also blessed with many supportive people, who embrace my may shortcomings and accept me completely and unconditionally. I guess that helps but not many people are so lucky. I encourage that you choose your friends very carefully, analyze the pro and cons before starting a new friendship, what do you stand to gain? Will this person make you a better person? Or will they step on you to get higher?
A while back I talked about seeing an old friend with a new friend of hers and she was looking completely unkempt while her friend was every bit of fabulous! Beware of such people? Also beware of people who agree with everything you say for fear of losing a friend; friendship is about honesty and trust and sincerity and love altogether. There is a part of everyone in my life that I want to mirror from Seyi's modesty, Imade's confidence, Remi's honesty, Moji's sexually appeal, and my sister's intelligence to Sinmbo's wholesomeness etc. I see a little me in all of them. There are also people who never see any good in you, no matter how good you look, they won’t pay you a compliment.... it is called jealousy. Then there is that one friend whom every time you talk to you end up depressed because they just whine about how miserably their life is and how life is so unfair, if you know such folks.....run for your dear life.
If I need the truth the whole truth, undiluted without regard to how I may feel I talk to Bisola or Remi. If I need comfort I'll call Moji! If I need reassurance or constructive criticism I'll find Dare. Different people play different roles in our lives and it is important to know who does what. A friend of mine just shared with me how hurt she was from the behavior of another friend, my advise to her was this; "do not expect anything from anyone, just know them for who they are and either accept them or reject them" having expectation from certain people will only lead to disappointment. Never condone negativity, it bring you down and drains you emotionally I learned the hard way but now I turn negativity off like a bad switch and move on!
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| Super Bowl Sunday |
| 02.03.04 (9:51 am) [edit] |
Sunday
Super Bowl Sunday was a blast, I organized a mini Ra Ra at my boy Chuks house, hell he had the biggest T.V so hey! Today is also one of my best friend’s birthday! I love you Imade…you rock! I woke up intending to go to church but I was like 2 hours late which was alright because the church I was attending don’t let out till like 3pm anyway but Momo convinced me to have lunch with her, Nike and her mum. We pigged out at a Chinese buffet on route 1, it was off the hook. I left for Chuks house afterwards. I spoke with my girl Sinmbo today, she had a beautiful baby boy on the 31st, and we hadn’t spoken in ages! I told everyone I would be cooking Jollof Rice but after the buffet I changed my mind. Chuks decided to order pizza and we bought Chips and salsa dip to munch on. Chuks and I went to pick up Anu , she was at Borders study fore her Lsat. Doyin was supposed to pick up Moji on his way from work but apparently they both wont be coming because Doyin cant get of work….po Doyin! I am not a football fan in the least but it was fun watching the game together with friends, we decided to root for NC because I told them my lover lives there! LMAO Jeje Baby was in tha house and so was Bowale and Doyin’s friend Temi who by the way is kinda cute once you get to know him. We had a blast! The highlight of the night however was Janet’s breast! Erybody was screaming their head off! I had to remind them that the shit was plastic any damn way! Yes I am hating! We were gisting during and after the game till almost midnight. I had to drop Anu off in Bowie and rush home, Molayo and her dad were outside waiting for me…hell tomorrow is Monday!
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| 02.03.04 (9:47 am) [edit] |
Saturday
I got a lot done on Saturday I went to the bank and I went grocery shopping. I ran like 50 reports! Molayo’s Aunt and Dad came to pick her up for the weekend…Free at last! Doyin and Bowale came over we chilled till like 7pm and we decided to pick Moji up and go to the movies. Moji insisted on Columbia Mall, I wanted Anne Arundel, I needed some body butter, but Moji said there was a body Shop in Columbia as well so she won! I realized I forgot to wear make-up! I look like a scarecrow! I quickly grabbed Doyin’s hat off his scull and improvised. We ended up seeing Tad Hamilton or some crap like that! WTF! It was alright, let me stop tripping! It was like 10 degrees below 0 in that micky flick when we got out! I crawled to my bed when I got home; I pray I don’t get sick!
Friday
Pretty uneventful past couple days. Yesterday I sat in a 4 hour-long meeting with my director about jack schitt. My computer crashed this morning! I tried to log on and nothing happened, the IT guy is back! He came by my desk to fix my computer…. damn he’s foine! I guess my ass won’t be doing jack schitt today! I was told I would be getting a new computer; this is my third one in 9 months! I started my morning really great, Uncle Folusho called me on my way to work and asked me to pick up the money he sent me. Yeeeee ha! I am almost done paying my outrageous phone bill; it was initially $3000 dollars and now its only $600! I can’t wait! Them bama’s are threatening to disconnect my phone! I work for Comcast GATDAMIT!
One of my galfriends from Naija Wunmi is in New York; she’s having her second baby! Remi and I are going down to see her next week! Must be nice to roll in just to deliver your child and roll out again! I am really looking forward to seeing her! I was going to go over Mo’s house tonight but I am exhausted, I just went shopping for house needs and I dont know how Omolayo convinced me to buy her ass 4 boxes of cereal! That chick is of the hook! I bought her some Mylanta for her constipation, I guess I should have waited till we got home to give it to her, she barely made it home, and she was threatening to go all over my damn car! Ye pa! I did like 80 to get her home on time!
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